Posts Tagged ‘Getting old’

Happy Singh when she was young…

December 10, 2008

homer

I worked all the way through college, first year, second year, third year. the year i graduated.

the year after that.

 and every year ever since. (with the odd one month sabbatical thrown in between jobs)

Now ten years into a working life, I have often wondered whether this was such a good thing. i’ll never know what it feels like to dawdle around in the college canteen the WHOLE day.   

I didnt work for money, I got enough (ok, a younger me would contest that!) as pocket money, my parents didnt like me working but allowed me the freedom to do as I wished.

i cant remember what it was that made me bust my ass back then.  at the time, it seemed like the natural thing to do. once i started working, i just couldnt stop. i dont remember cribbing about my job, back then tho i might sometimes do that now. 

I do remember loving every minute of it, the independence, the late hours, sitting with the designer on the layout of the page, the power of knowing people read my stories (or not!) and holding the paper in the morning and savouring the moment as I read my byline. Nothing could beat that.

Thats why I find it hard to understand people today on their first job cribbing about the time they have to spend in office, the late hours, the work. if thats how you feel about your first job, you couldnt possibly enjoy it ten years down the line.

my advice to people who feel that way? quit. take a holiday. travel. and figure out what you want out of life.  just dont sit around and crib about it, you could waste that time on better things.

gooey eyed fool or the house next to the hills

August 13, 2008

I haven’t owned any piece of real estate in my life. I do intend to, but I just haven’t gotten down to it. My parents, on the other hand, have meticulously invested in real estate through their life and now, are building that long-dreamt-of house in Kerala. With her typical resourcefulness, my mum would mail me the house layout plans, call me from Delhi and chat animatedly about which plan looked better? a, b or c? as far as i was concerned  they all looked the same to me. I still went along with the talk, not particularly moved by the thought of a new house. I was preoccupied with Mumbai, work and other mundane stuff. Till I visited the site a week back after landing in Palakkad. The house isnt going to be ready till March next year but still, walking through the plot as the workers went about their work and listening to my mom talking about what she had planned for each corner, I had this sense of a new beginning, a new place to call home. I could imagine coming home to this place in the holidays. Most Mallus talk about building a house in Kerala, many of them do so, too. But my parents had always seemed to be different. They were fond of their annual trips back to Kerala but liked the convenience of their Delhi life, something they didnt seem inclined towards trading off.

In the last one year, though, their plans seem to have changed and they’ve been talking of renting out the Delhi apartment and moving to Kerala. The house here has a beautiful view of the western Ghats, from the terrace, and is located in a quiet serene neighbourhood (at least for now) 

I’m not sure if they will actually do it, but suspect that once the house is ready, relocating may be too tempting a prospect. It’s their decision, of course, but I worry that they may not adjust to life in Kerala after having spent close to 40 years in Delhi. They have their friends, their circle of acquaintances, their routine and re-adjusting your life at 60 isn’t the most practial thing, perhaps. Anyways, they haven’t made up their minds yet so…

I’ve never been attached to Delhi, though I grew up and studied college there. Yet, a part of me feels sad about losing that part of my childhood when they do decide to relocate. Crap, I am contradicting myself. Nonsensical emotional stuff…